Self care is not happiness-production. (Trying to make as much joy as you can to anesthetize yourself against pain.) Self-care is battle for reality to prevail inside your psyche. Self-care is reminding yourself that not everyone needs to like you. (For some of us.) Self-care is making yourself a good meal, even when there’s no…
If we really understood how much of what goes on inside our head is garbage information… literal nonsense produced by a system trying to figure out how to live in a world too complicated for a developing human prefrontal cortex. When the words inside created fear, we would talk back to it with the same…
Too many of us who are great at learning want to learn from experts, or we want to learn from a great book/workshop/etc., but we discount the fact that we learn best from experience. (We learn what to do and what not to do from doing things and getting results.) When we focus too much…
The better you are at learning, and the deeper you get into your competence, the more likely you’re not going to find teachers who can teach you anything theoretical anymore unless they are extremely competent or very specialized (just so you know what to look for). You likely need to learn by doing and watching.…