If you got out of the habit of socializing during the last few years… are you okay? Some of us are fine socializing less than we were, and if that’s you, please ignore me.
But I’ve now had four coaching calls in a row where we had to do a come-to-Jesus about how lonely we are. (And one of those coaching calls was me getting coached by someone else, so… you’re not alone if this is you.) So I wanted to bring this up.
Just ask yourself if you are really getting enough energy pennies from the socializing you’re currently doing. Especially if you are primarily socializing with the same people over and over. Or if you have lost people, or friendships have shifted, or friendships have ended. Are you okay?
(And, as always, not everyone socializes the same, so I mean “are you socializing” in whatever way is best for you.)
For many of the people I’m talking to, we genuinely did just get out of the habit of socializing. If that’s you, please commit to getting back into more social rhythms. Some of us are genuinely languishing (I had to label this chapter of my life today, and the main word I chose was “disconnected.” So. You are not alone.)
I know this is an uncomfortable conversation to have because this is a topic we generally don’t like to look in the eyes. Please know that I only bring this up because it’s coming up so often now, and I’m seeing the impact of this loneliness.
So I’ll just ask the question. Are you getting enough energy pennies from socializing? If you are, great. But if not, I’m going to do something this weekend to fill my energy pennies (EP) bucket. What are you doing?
Becca