On Listening To Advice

Listening To Advice… Especially Those Who Are Very Certain and/or Successful Anytime you hear someone speak with certainty, be aware of the inverse relationship between correctness and certainty. Our brains want to believe certain = correct. (Biologically, it’s safer for us if that’s true. Every time someone says, “there’s a lion,” it’s safest for us…

Saying No Is A Skill

With burnout in peak form lately, the phrase “no is a complete sentence” has been getting tossed around a lot, and I just want to add the perspective, as someone who coaches success outcomes obsessively, that for many of us, it is not. There are too many skills before the “no” that we don’t have…

Am I Doing It Right?

In every situation, there is an optimal response–a “best” option, one might say.  Like a lock and a key. One click, and it is… ahhhh… right. Some of us (might be Strategic, might be Achiever, might be… trauma…) are hard-wired to keep seeking until we find that best. That click. When it is working for…