Self care is not happiness-production. (Trying to make as much joy as you can to anesthetize yourself against pain.) Self-care is battle for reality to prevail inside your psyche. Self-care is reminding yourself that not everyone needs to like you. (For some of us.) Self-care is making yourself a good meal, even when there’s no…
DetailsIf we really understood how much of what goes on inside our head is garbage information… literal nonsense produced by a system trying to figure out how to live in a world too complicated for a developing human prefrontal cortex. When the words inside created fear, we would talk back to it with the same…
DetailsToo many of us who are great at learning want to learn from experts, or we want to learn from a great book/workshop/etc., but we discount the fact that we learn best from experience. (We learn what to do and what not to do from doing things and getting results.) When we focus too much…
DetailsThe better you are at learning, and the deeper you get into your competence, the more likely you’re not going to find teachers who can teach you anything theoretical anymore unless they are extremely competent or very specialized (just so you know what to look for). You likely need to learn by doing and watching.…
DetailsIf you’re like me, and you get stressed out by uncertainty, it’s very likely there’s a skill missing in your certainty-seeking skill chain, and I want to talk about what a couple of those skill fixes might be and how to access them. Uncertainty is the most stressful state of being in my life. And…
DetailsI was reflecting on how I got to where I am today, in this place where I feel so centered and so right about what I’m doing and where I’m headed, and as a Connectedness, I’m always so struck by the encounters that mold our futures. When we talk about people that changed our lives,…
DetailsSHOW NOTES Since we’ve had a lot of questions about how to do these, I wanted to do a quick primer on this so you’d have the tool (and mostly so we’d have the tool for reference). This is a tool I use for myself and I’m not claiming to speak for the entirety of…
DetailsIf you’ve ever been in transition, or if you’ve ever had something change on you where you didn’t have control over the change, you’ll know the uncentered feeling of getting used to new phases of life. And as someone who resisted change in my life for almost a decade, I have a few thoughts. Rachael…
DetailsHaving a convo about auto-calculating ROI recently, when I pointed out that not everyone automatically thinks of everything they do as an investment, or of actions and time having automatic worth that we’re getting a return on. The three of them all stared at me like I’d sprouted another head. “How can people not calculate…
DetailsThere’s this brief moment, maybe sixty seconds in duration, where a sunrise is so brilliant, it takes your breath away. Fractals of a thousand different colors. And it’s not every sunrise either. Right? It’s only occasional sunrises and the moment is so beautiful you notice how amazing it is. And if you don’t stop and…
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