We’ve been talking a lot about relationships lately and I had an insight this morning, answering comments, that I wanted to share. Everyone exists inside relationships a little differently, and when you have some of the Relationship-Building Strengths, you often require either “interest” or “trust” as a barrier to entry. This means my access to…
DetailsDon’t quit your day job… When most people hear this sentence, they hear “you’ll never get this” or “don’t bother” or “no one can be a working writer.” But I want us to think differently about this for a second. Let’s just talk to the Intellection authors only (the ones who like to think, and…
DetailsI’ve been rewatching the Lord of the Rings and that cringey scene in the third movie where Denethor is freaking out and screaming at his people to flee and fear… something struck me. The wizard interrupted Denethor’s rant and told all the people not to listen to him. And because of the power structure there,…
DetailsWe’ve been talking a lot about looking toward the future lately (in the BFA), and one of the things we’re trying to encourage people is to QTP their negative versions of the future. Let me explain. When you have the Futuristic Strength, and it’s acting as the Strength *should* act, you are basically time traveling…
DetailsBecause of what I do for a living, a lot of people come to me to “maximize” themselves (no surprise, given the potential of Strengths as a maximization tool), and sometimes, the work is quick and easy. And that’s often when there’s the most interest in it. But if I am honest, the most beneficial…
DetailsA friend of mine was lamenting the need for patience with me one day, and she inadvertently said the thing that changed my whole perspective on patience. We were discussing something that was supposed to happen in the future, and she said, “I guess I don’t have a choice… whether I want to or not,…
DetailsMost people, when they come to coach with me, have a pain point. Something they want to solve. One of the most recent pain points involved someone who was struggling to get into their manuscript. Lots of common advice out there about how to focus and get the most done. * clear the decks first…
DetailsThere will never be a day when I don’t worry that I’m not doing enough. (At the same time, worrying I’m too much… how’s that for internal irony.) Am I making enough progress on the important stuff? And what about the unimportant stuff? Am I saying enough how I feel and think? And what about…
DetailsGallup just released a new report on the impact of recognition on well being. Turns out, it is fundamental to human existence. Fundamental. But too many think “recognition” is claps. Flowers. Compliments. Programs in the day job that tell people how important they are. Holiday parties. A little lesson, my friends: show. Don’t tell. Recognition…
DetailsWhat Makes Things Great… I’ve been doing some experimenting with my breakfast (maximizing some might say, eh?) and when you have a commitment to producing great things, you’ll go to eleven about it. And the way we talk about producing greatness often focuses a lot on the work required (and as I wrote about my…
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