Look. Imposters can’t have imposter syndrome. The syndrome is thusly named because people who are not imposters feel like they are imposters. By nature, people who care about doing their best will worry they’re not doing “good” enough. Imposters don’t worry about being good enough. Stop arguing with imposter syndrome by saying, “no, look at…
Unrealistic expectations. Every one of us has a blind spot about the things that come easy for us. When something is very easy (when I can see a strategic path forward, or when I can know what someone is feeling, or when I can “pull up my big girl pants and just do the work”),…
It has been a struggle. I know a lot of what we get on social media is the brassy, shiny stuff, and that’s all amazing, but the last several months have been a struggle for me. I shared some of this in the newsletter on Friday, but I wanted to put it out here as…
I know I announced rather ominously that I had something I was afraid to talk about, and I had no idea I would open a bit of a storm with that. Unfortunately, because I was also at CozyCon last week, I didn’t have a chance to get the letter done. But now that I’ve had…
“I just want to write.” I don’t know if you can hear the desperation in that sentence, but if you didn’t read it that way, read it again. “I don’t want to work my day job. I just want to write.” “I don’t want to market. I just want to write.” “I don’t want to…
When you usually think five-moves-ahead of others, and you like to be a quick thinker, the times when you’re stuck in thinking can be frustrating. Let’s talk about it. This combination of the ability to have foresight (the “five moves ahead” part) and also to care about whether or not things happen in the most…
“I feel unproductive” is a vibe. Let’s talk about it. I know this will be painful for some of us, but here’s the honest truth about feeling unproductive. What’s really happening when we say things like, “I feel like I haven’t accomplished anything” or “Why am I not more productive?” Here are a couple of…
One of the first authors I officially coached was a woman who was unproductive because she kept waking up angry. (And I tell this story in WBF, which is starting today, so the beginning of that class always reminds me of this story.) Because I’m always looking for the actual catalyst for the lack of…
Ok, all my “impatient” friends… here’s one for you today. I know being impatient gets a bad reputation. And a lot of us who have trend in this direction get shamed for having no impulse control, but let me just put in a plug for the love of impatience for a minute. If we assume…
In honor of the recent episodes of the audio QuitCast, I wrote the following and wanted to post it here as well. Hope it helps some of us process certainty today. <3 Many of us are not wired to easily sort through a lot of potential options, and we get overwhelmed when it appears there’s…