Because of what I do for a living, a lot of people come to me to “maximize” themselves (no surprise, given the potential of Strengths as a maximization tool), and sometimes, the work is quick and easy. And that’s often when there’s the most interest in it. But if I am honest, the most beneficial…
DetailsA friend of mine was lamenting the need for patience with me one day, and she inadvertently said the thing that changed my whole perspective on patience. We were discussing something that was supposed to happen in the future, and she said, “I guess I don’t have a choice… whether I want to or not,…
DetailsMost people, when they come to coach with me, have a pain point. Something they want to solve. One of the most recent pain points involved someone who was struggling to get into their manuscript. Lots of common advice out there about how to focus and get the most done. * clear the decks first…
DetailsThere will never be a day when I don’t worry that I’m not doing enough. (At the same time, worrying I’m too much… how’s that for internal irony.) Am I making enough progress on the important stuff? And what about the unimportant stuff? Am I saying enough how I feel and think? And what about…
DetailsGallup just released a new report on the impact of recognition on well being. Turns out, it is fundamental to human existence. Fundamental. But too many think “recognition” is claps. Flowers. Compliments. Programs in the day job that tell people how important they are. Holiday parties. A little lesson, my friends: show. Don’t tell. Recognition…
DetailsWhat Makes Things Great… I’ve been doing some experimenting with my breakfast (maximizing some might say, eh?) and when you have a commitment to producing great things, you’ll go to eleven about it. And the way we talk about producing greatness often focuses a lot on the work required (and as I wrote about my…
DetailsThinking deep. I know a lot of us resist thinking too deep about things, so I’m going to encourage you, if you have high Intellection (Strengths), please don’t resist taking the time to be in static places and let your brain go all the way to the core. Personally, I resist this because of distractibility…
DetailsWhat’s the happiest you have been in this publishing industry of ours? Tell me about the moment. Paint me a picture of that joy. And then tell me how you can live a little piece of that today. For me, the happiest I’ve ever been was when I was publishing between 2014 and 2017. And…
DetailsWhat purpose do emotions serve for you? (Don’t try to speak for everyone. Just speak for yourself. That way, no one gets to correct what anyone else feels about their emotions. I just want to know what purpose you feel they serve for you.) Are they actions? Are they tools? Are they states? Are they…
DetailsIf I Can Do It, Anyone Can Do It… This phrase is typically used to downplay the talent of the person accomplishing the thing. And I get the reason it’s used. The person accomplishing the thing is trying to help the listener feel like “the accomplishment” is in their grasp. But we have to be…
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