Here’s a challenge for all my thinking-dominant peeps today: If you have been considering doing something (reaching out to a friend, cancelling plans, making a change, stopping a relationship, starting a relationship), take a small step today. The desire to think until we have certainty is sometimes a Strength behavior, and sometimes a response to…
If you got out of the habit of socializing during the last few years… are you okay? Some of us are fine socializing less than we were, and if that’s you, please ignore me. But I’ve now had four coaching calls in a row where we had to do a come-to-Jesus about how lonely we…
I’m gonna be mean for just a second, and I apologize for how hard I’m coming for some of you. If you want to be more productive, and you have any of these Strengths [Strategic, Input, Adaptability, Empathy, Harmony, Positivity, Learner, Futuristic, Intellection, Analytical, Context, Relator, Included, Woo, Communication], here is how you do it.…
I was in the SeaTac airport recently, when I witnessed a woman have an extremely public meltdown over her luggage not showing up after a flight. She ran around the baggage carousel, screaming profanity at the top of her lungs. Anyone who came near her would get screamed at. This went on for almost an…
I had to do some processing aloud about Relator and some of the things I’ve been seeing in coaching lately with Relators. This is not meant to be prescriptive about Relators, but because I’ve been coaching several different people with Relator wounds lately, I just wanted to make this discourse public for a second. If…
We’ve started the February 30for30 challenge and I did a video about why I think this may be the most important challenge we’ve ever done. If you want to watch it, it’s here. But if you don’t want to watch it, here’s the summary: After coaching 6K+ individual authors, I can say with absolute certainty…
Almost always, when writers talk about being stuck, we use negative language to discuss it. The “must make progress” vibe in us is quite aggressive. And I get that. When we don’t know what’s happening in our brains, we might be tempted to assume that not making forward progress is evidence of something being wrong.…
A writer friend and I were discussing books recently and I made a comment that surprised her. “If I don’t like a character, I can’t read the book.” She shook her head. “I don’t need to like characters to enjoy books.” I was pretty flabbergasted. Knowing that we’d liked some of the same books in…
I was on a podcast recently where we discussed my favorite romance novel, and the host ended up asking me some “why” questions which really got at the core of my heart. I’m going to take the same concept we discussed on that podcast and apply it to Strengths. Growing up, I was the odd…
At Inker’s Con one of the talks I did was on Author Success Metrics. When we finished our great conversation, I had an author walk up to me and say this particular slide was the highlight of their conference. So as I was thinking about what to post about the event, I wanted to post…